Tuesday, March 16, 2010

Why I'm Not A "Happy Homemaker"

Continuing on in our theme of housewives....

First, let me say that my last post on what being a house wife means to me....was EXACTLY that.

What it means....to ME.

At no time did I mean to imply that others that work only feed their families convenience foods or have messy houses or anything like that. I only compared MY OWN working vs. non-working experiences. And guess what?? I'm unique. I don't expect there is anyone else on the face of this earth with the exact same story, wants, likes, dislikes or general thoughts on life. (Thank goodness. One of me is quite enough.) And I can honestly say that I am not cut out to be an employee, wife and mother all the same time.....without shorting someone. I just don't have that kind of energy or drive. There it is. Sad but true.

Some of the women I admire the most on earth are working mothers. Some of my best friends are working mothers. Some work in the home, and some work outside the home. I have absolutely no problem with working mothers and would not want to insult or belittle them in any manner. If I have done so, I'd like to take this moment to publicly apologize. That is not my intent. Ever. If I ever have hurt or insulted you, please email me and allow me to apologize to you personally. I really mean that.


Today I was reading through my blog roll and enjoying my quiet morning. One of my favorite blogs always does a "Happy Homemaker Monday". I do enjoy reading her little list....but I find myself giggling as I do.

Why do I giggle?

Because my answers would just be...well.....warped.

It would make for disturbing reading, week after week. Maybe even scary to some people.

So today...I will share what a Happy Homemaker Monday would look like on my blog. I promise I will only do it once.

So Sandra....here's how Monday looks in my little house....

The weather in my neck of the woods:
Cold. Depressing cold. Wet. Windy. I don't like it. Can I be depressed? Oh wait...I don't do depressed. How about cranky? I do cranky well.

One of my simple pleasures:
A coke. Maybe two. And yes it is a guilty pleasure as I have been trying to actively break this addiction for 3 (THREE!!) years. There are none in the house. At some point today I will find an excuse to drive somewhere and get one. I want one now. I think there is a coupon for a free sonic drink in my floorboards in the van. If Songbird didn't abscond with it. Must go check...

On my bedside table:
Abe Lincoln: Vampire Hunter
A Biography of Jane Austin that was sent to me to review
On the iphone: Gargantua and Pantagruel
In the car CD: Stephenwolf
On the computer desk....1001 Books You Must Read Before You Die
Had enough?

On my TV:
Dead Snow.....zombie movie in a foreign language. Yes, I am reading subtitles. But guess what? Zombie language is universal...so its not much reading.

Grindhouse: Death Proof - second story is great!! First, not so much.

Next (Nicholas Cage)

On the menu for tonight:
Stew. That I actually cooked two nights ago. But then I put it away as hubs got stuck at the airport and couldn't make it home. What? You don't think I'd waste a night of cooking do you? Hah. The girls and I ate sandwiches instead. (Not a hardship, trust me.)

On my To Do List:
Bills/Budget. Hate it. Procrastinating.
Laundry. See above.
Go get a Coke.

New Recipe I tried last week:
Maebo Tofu
(This is actually the only subject that would be normal or fun. Love to try new things just about every week.)

In the craft basket:
No less than 4 quilts.
A cross stitch of Gustav Klimits "The Kiss" which I have been working on for over 2 years.
MM's pictures that need to be rematted (since December).
MM's hangers that need to be painted to match her room. (also since December)

Looking forward to:
Mom's visit this month. DC graduation in May. Family vacation in June.

Homemaking Tip for this week:
Align CenterJust do it.

Favorite Blog Post of the week (mine or other):
I read so many it would be hard to choose. It could be on being frugal. It might be a military wife blog post. It might be adoption related. It might be race related. It might be sewing/quilt related. It might be related to faith. My reading is all across the board. Too bad I can't get paid to do it! LOL!

Favorite photo from last week:
Not loaded on computer yet. Fairy pictures of daughter in play.

Lesson learned the past few days:
I'm allergic to ........... (would be different each week.....this week would read: the adhesive in Walgreens brand bandages.)

On my Prayer List:
This would be lengthy.

Devotionals, Scripture Reading, Key Verses:
Did I leave my Bible in Texas??? Has anyone seen my...hey wait, I know I had it at church. Is it still in the car? No...what happened to it? How many days to I have to find it before church again? Hmmm. (Ok. That was all made up for the sake of being funny. I know exactly where my Bible is. It has its own spot on my nightstand....but far too often it is not touched inbetween services.)

See. This is just not something the world should hear about every week. Cause I? I don't believe in making it pretty...I believe in making it real. And my life just isn't all that pretty. Fun. Interesting. Never a dull moment. But not pretty.

And that is why I am NOT a Happy Homemaker.


  1. And yet... I can read your list and smile while the other one you mentioned seems so far fetched to me that I wonder if it is real even though I am sure it is and there are people that are that happy and perfect in this world. It's just not me. Your list seems more like what I would do. So, if you did a weekly list, I might just join up, but I would feel like a freak if I joined up with the other list. Just saying. :)
    BTW: Have you had a coke yet? I haven't had a pepsi or chocolate bar for THREE DAYS! I am not sure how I am surviving. :p

  2. I think that you being so real, no matter what it looks like, is part of why I love you so much. The good, the bad and the ugly all serve a purpose for lifting HIM up, and for encouraging me too.

  3. LOL you know this made me laugh, I think I would enjoy reading your list every week.

    For me being a housewife has a bit of everything, there are good and bad days, there are days I'm thrilled to be doing what I do and then there's days I want to run for the hills. It's a bit of everything.

  4. I like it! I would read it and laugh...cause I just did. :)

  5. Well, you KNOW I loved your list... cuz mine looks very similar. Except for the zombie movie. I don't do Zombie movies. But I have watched "The Dirty Dozen" in two languages. Does that count?

  6. I recently came across your blog and have been reading along. I thought I would leave my first comment. I dont know what to say except that I have enjoyed reading. Nice blog. I will keep visiting this blog very often.